Some days just suck.
Yesterday was one of those days.
I call those days ‘mediocre mom days’…a day when everything is just beyond my control, my kids have a mind of their own, and I’m not on my mom game at all. Those particular days are the thankless days of motherhood.
Let me set the scene: Mabel is three going on fifteen and has been throwing temper tantrums like they are going out of style. She’s hot one minute, cold the next and knows just how to get a good little sting in there by saying ‘I not love you anymore‘ with the perfect stink-eye face. Yep, that’s my child and I’m left wondering if I was like this when I was a kid and if this is karma coming back at me now that I’m a mother.
I’m left stumbling my way through figuring out what works best on correcting bad behavior.
I’m not a hardcore disciplinarian.
But I’m not a pushover either.
Nothing works. Then I wonder if it’s just the fact that she’s three?
Of course on those rough days with one kiddo…the baby decides she isn’t content either. Millie is a cuddly baby, which is a great thing. But when it gets to the point that I can’t go to the bathroom or grab a bite to eat without her crying, it kinda makes you wonder how people with more than two kids survive? And yes, I have every baby carrier on the market but on those types of days, oddly enough she enjoys being held the old fashioned way with two arms.
Why can’t I just have four arms to get everything done?
So there I was…with a toddler crying about not wanting to hold her blanket (no one told her she had to hold it) and a heavy baby about to break my arms from a record breaking holding session. I know some day I’ll miss these days…NOT.
Oh and wait, was I able to grab a shower? Yes…eventually…and as I was enjoying a moment of child-free freedom…the door busted open and a tiny voice said “Momma, you in the shower?”. Seriously, where was my husband and why was the little hooligan in the bathroom? Her grumpy behavior had done a 180 and she was actually pleasant…I’m convinced three year olds all are a bit bipolar.
Bedtime was a whole other battle.
Millie was the easy one.
Mabel was a tricky task…to the point where by the time I got her asleep, I felt like I’d just completed some insanely hard athletic task (this has been going on for about two weeks now and I’m hoping it’s over just as quickly as it began).
“Good night Mabel. I love you.”
“I not love you anymore!”…there it was again. Thank you, my wonderful child…did I really give birth to you?
“Oh well, I still love you.”
And then there was a quick pang guilt that I’m not being the best mom possible. I wondered if her behavior is due to something I’ve done wrong as a parent? I see those moms who seem like they were meant to be moms (you know, the one’s who said they wanted five kids ever since there were five years old themselves). They have the answer and solution to every problem. They look put together and in control.
Me, not so much and I’m left feeling mediocre on days like yesterday. Hence the ‘Mediocre Mom Day’…hopefully it will be awhile until I have another one of these days.
7 thoughts on “Those Mediocre Mom Days”
Oh wow! Thank you. I only have a three year old and at the moment and i just don’t know what happens to her sometimes. I hear its just a phase (’til the fearsome 4’s oh great).
Thank you for making me feel a little more ‘normal’ on the difficult days
You are NOT alone!!!!! My dd will be three in August and I have a 4 month old. Two girls as well. This is my life. Haha some days I’m left sitting there counting to 10 and taking large sigh it will be OK it will be OK…. My hubby is fine every other week and no other support around so I def have my days….. You are not alone my friend…..
I’m right there with you! Having a newborn makes life sweet but hard. You are not a mediocre mom, you’re a GREAT mom in a season of life that is difficult. And you’re doing an incredible job 🙂
LOL! Her and Mia are two peas in a pod! I scratch my head all the time whenever Mia is a sour patch kid! Like “Is this really happening?”. Mia also says “I don’t like you!”. I just keep telling her that it makes Mama sad when she says it. She did apologize ONE of the times so I’m hoping it really clicks soon and she stops all together. Hope your night routine goes back to normal soon!
Yes! My three (next month) year old is the same! She has been running a special on fits about her and dad and I not sitting where she wants us to! Also, she won’t let my husband drive “mommy’s car!!” He is forced to be a passenger, haha! Also, I’m a nurse and she doesn’t want me to leave the house without my scrub jacket…and it is 90 degrees out. She definitely rules us 🙂 toddlers are exhausting and crazy monsters 🙂
Right now we are pretty much in the same boat (I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old) and let me just tell you that those “mediocre mom days” kind of outweigh the awesome days right now. Between the regression with potty training, tantrums, and non-stop nursing, most days I am lucky to not collapse by the time I finally get to fall asleep! I just try to remember that “this too shall pass,” haha!